A Comment On Marriage

Western women have been brainwashed their entire lives about what they’re supposed to want, and women don't hesitate to tell men what they think they want. It’s no surprise that men have come to believe what women are telling them. It’s in magazines, TV shows, movies, websites, romantic comedies - it's everywhere. The great tragedy of relationships today is that most men do not realize that what a woman says she wants, what a woman thinks she wants, and what a woman really needs are often three completely different things, and as a result has no idea what his woman actually needs from their relationship.

Now, what happens when such a woman obtains everything that she says and thinks she wants? Surprisingly (to men) she feels strangely unhappy and unfulfilled, and this confuses both herself and the others around her. After all, she has everything she (or any other woman) could have ever want, doesn't she?. However, when you recognize the effects of social programming on women, the unhappiness makes complete sense: she is completely out of touch with her own needs and, as a result, her man is focused on what she says she wants rather than what she really needs in their relationship. This is not the man’s fault, because she (and society at large) have constantly fed him well-intended misinformation, day after day, year after year, about his responsibilities and what her needs are supposed to be.

So what does the man do in the face of his woman’s unhappiness? He tries even harder to please his woman. He keeps doing what didn’t work before (because he thinks he's doing what she wants) and he does it with even more vigor. And what does this have the effect of doing? It renders him undesirable, even repugnant to her. She doesn’t understand it, so she chalks it up to "no longer being in love" or some other rationalization. The man becomes frustrated – he’s done everything in his power to make her happy, given her everything she’s ever wanted, and this is the result? And when the relationship ends he (and society, and in Southern Man's case even the Church) chastises him for "not giving her what she really needed." Sadly, none of the parties involved had any idea what that was.

But all is not lost because this can be a watershed moment – when he takes the red pill and is finally capable of seeing some truth about relationships in this world. And that is the bittersweet place in which Southern Man finds himself today; filled with regret for what might have been had he gained even the most elementary education in the proper maintenance of marriage relationships, with the knowledge and ability today to have far greater success in future relationships, but at an age where that is increasingly unlikely. Southern Man will probably wake up alone for the rest of his days, and that is a sad thought. But who knows what new adventures the next twenty or thirty years might bring? And that is an exciting speculation. To infinity, and beyond!

Inspired by this post at The Private Man.